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What a Toothpaste Tube Can Teach Us About Love
The Transformative Power of Imago Therapy It’s Not About the Toothpaste In relationships, it’s rarely about the toothpaste.It’s about what the toothpaste represents—what lives beneath the surface of our irritation, what old stories are being unconsciously activated,...
The Ripple Effect of Love: How Imago Therapy Transforms Families, Not Just Couples
“Mom, are you being nice or are you being mean? I’m trying to be nice, so you need to try too.”— A precocious little girl in a viral moment of emotional wisdom We often say that children live in the space between their parents—not just physically, but emotionally....
Breaking Free from Villain-Victim Thinking: How Imago Dialogue Creates Understanding
A March 30th Washington Post article by Yael Schonbrun, "Typecasting others and self as villain or victim can hurt relationships," explores how we often fall into moral typecasting in relationships—assigning rigid roles of villain and victim in couples' dynamics. When...
Change Your Lens, Change Your Relationship
How would your relationship be different if you approached your partner reflecting on two questions: What can I celebrate in my partner? What’s right with our relationship? This sounds challenging, right? This is not how we are programmed! We tend to look for what’s...
Are You Fuelling Your Resiliency?
What do rubber bands, willow trees, and roly-poly dolls have in common? Answer: Flexibility under pressure and the capacity to bounce back after stress. In other words: resilience! The past two years have called for all kinds of resilience from us — as individuals, as...
Couples Who Play Together, Stay Together
When is the last time you played with your partner? Nine months into a global pandemic, you might not feel very playful, especially if you and your loved ones have experienced hardship or loss. But that is exactly why we need play more than ever in our relationships!...
Can You Say “I’m Sorry”?
Do you know how to apologize meaningfully when you have made a mistake or hurt someone — intentionally or unintentionally? Most of us growing up did not see good models of healthy apologies to repair ruptures and restore relational trust and safety. Some of us were...
This is Water: The Power of Awareness
Just this week, for the first time I watched a popular online video, This Is Water, adapted from author David Foster Wallace’s 2005 commencement speech at Kenyon College. Maybe you have seen it here. I was struck by how brilliantly the video conveyed a message about...
New Moms: Your Well-being Matters
In 2016, medical and mental health experts on the United States Preventive Services Task Force, a government-appointed health panel, emphasized the importance of screening women for depression both during pregnancy and after giving birth. After having a baby,...
The Best Wedding Gift Ever
If you are preparing to be married, consider premarital counseling: it’s the best investment in your relationship you’ll ever make. You don’t have to be religious to try it. Even though some couples come to premarital counseling because their priest, minister, or...
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