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Guessing Games Don’t Build Connection
Why asking for what you need is a strength, not a weakness Have you ever found yourself feeling hurt or disappointed that your partner didn’t meet a need you never actually said out loud? You were hoping they’d notice you were struggling, offer support, reach for your...
The Power of the Pause
Why slowing down just for a moment can change everything Ever blurt something out and immediately wish you could hit rewind? You’re not alone. When we feel triggered, our brains switch into survival mode: we either gear up to fight (I must win this) or we shut down...
Appreciation Resets Connection
One small shift that can help you come back together faster Ever find yourself stuck in a bad vibe with your partner, even after the argument is technically over? The tension hangs in the air. No one’s saying anything hurtful, but something still feels off. It’s easy...
Still Blaming Your Partner for That Argument?
(What if the pattern is the real problem?) Ever have the same fight over and over? The one that starts about the dishwasher… or a tone of voice… or the way they looked at you? Here’s the thing: most of the time, the fight isn’t actually about what it seems. It’s about...
Think You’re a Great Communicator?
Three tiny habits that might be hurting connection without you realizing it We all want to be good communicators thoughtful, loving, and clear. But sometimes, especially when we’re stressed or triggered, we fall into habits that quietly sabotage the very connection...
Mind-Reading Is NOT a Love Language
There’s a poem by Jayne Gumpel that always stops me in my tracks. It’s called Goddamn It, Just Ask Me. It speaks to a part of me that has, for much of my life, been quiet—maybe even invisible: the part of me that has needs. For years, I saw myself as a giver. I was...
What It Really Takes to Stay Married for 30+ Years
What It Really Takes to Stay Married for 30+ Years People often ask: How do you stay married to the same person for over 30 years? Well, here’s the honest answer: You don’t. The person I married 31 years ago is not the same person I live with today. And I’m certainly...
What a Toothpaste Tube Can Teach Us About Love
The Transformative Power of Imago Therapy It’s Not About the Toothpaste In relationships, it’s rarely about the toothpaste.It’s about what the toothpaste represents—what lives beneath the surface of our irritation, what old stories are being unconsciously activated,...
The Ripple Effect of Love: How Imago Therapy Transforms Families, Not Just Couples
“Mom, are you being nice or are you being mean? I’m trying to be nice, so you need to try too.”— A precocious little girl in a viral moment of emotional wisdom We often say that children live in the space between their parents—not just physically, but emotionally....
Breaking Free from Villain-Victim Thinking: How Imago Dialogue Creates Understanding
A March 30th Washington Post article by Yael Schonbrun, "Typecasting others and self as villain or victim can hurt relationships," explores how we often fall into moral typecasting in relationships—assigning rigid roles of villain and victim in couples' dynamics. When...
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